Six word Saturday

In memory of a lovely lady

It’s hard to post today.  My head is full of thoughts, but I don’t want to upset the family or share things that are not mine to share.

My friend Vron was never happier than when she had her family around her.  I never knew her as the powerhouse she was, before an aneursym 18 years ago left her partially disabled, but I’ve heard the stories and seen photographs.  To me she was a kind and gentle soul, who accepted her situation with grace and without any trace of bitterness,  From the moment I stepped into her household, in my capacity as a carer, I was accepted as a member of the family, and she became very special to me.

Vron was surrounded by love.  They say you reap what you sew, and that was never truer.  Her beloved husband took on the role that she could no longer manage and she put her whole faith and trust in him.   She adored her two girls and her son, and the grandchildren, as one rapidly followed the other.  All were very precious to her.  Brothers and sisters were held close to her heart.

Whenever there was a cause for celebration, this family knew how to celebrate. They put their heart and soul into it.  The last time I saw them all together was for a special birthday last November.  Family and friends joined them and the laughter and memories flowed.  Hard to believe that I will never again join Vron at another family gathering.  I know she’ll be there in spirit.  Vron, we will always miss your lovely smile.  It was a privilege to know you.  God bless!  Rest in peace.

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107 comments

  1. Beautiful and loving tribute, Jo. Living 18 years after a disabling event, and having grace, and being surrounded by loved ones is an amazing feat. My warmest thoughts to you and her family….

    1. Thanks so much, Jet 🙂 🙂 Vron coped so well because of her amazing family but the strain was beginning to show on her husband. She will leave an enormous gap in their lives.

    1. Hiya Meg 🙂 🙂 Thank you! I called to see Peter this morning to see how he was doing but all bar one were at church. I should have realised they would have a mass for Vron. At least one of his daughters will be staying with him till after the funeral so that made me feel a bit better. Beyond that. life starts again. 🙂 🙂

    1. The family took me into their lives when I became her carer, Peta, and going to Vron’s was like going home. I shall miss that so much. Thank you for your kind thoughts. 🙂

    1. She was a sweetheart, Sue, and such a lovely soul. I often thought that in her position I would be bitter and twisted, but she just smiled and continued to love. 🙂

  2. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss, Jo, and also for Vron’s family and friends who are experiencing the pain of separation right now, and for a long while to come. This past fall we lost a very dear family member to an aneurysm. He was in the grocery story, suddenly dropped and was gone. I’m not sure we’ll ever get over that, quite frankly. I’m so glad that Vron had years with her family, even though I’m confident her impairment was very difficult. This is a beautiful tribute and I hope her husband and family feel the blessing of good friends like you.

    1. Debbie, they are a fantastic family and they adopted me as one of their own. Sudden death is hard, but then so is watching someone waste away. They were spared that, thank God, but how Pete will fill the gap Vron leaves I really don’t know. In some tiny part of himself there must be relief because he was starting to struggle. Life works in strange ways, doesn’t it? Thank you for your understanding. 🙂

  3. Ahh you gentle soul, you could never upset anyone. I’m sure Vron’s family will be touched by your words. It’s so very sad, but I expect her passing was at the right time. Big hugs my love, let your tears flow, I’ll be thinking of you.

    1. The tears are over for now, Gilly. Just writing this opened the floodgates, but a part of me is aware that life wasn’t going to get any easier as both Pete and Vron got older. I just don’t know what he’s going to do with his life now, but they are a wonderful family. The photo I was tempted to include shows 4 of the grandchildren Pete is closely involved with, so hopefully they will keep him going. Hugs back, darlin! How are you doing? Not much time for blogging!
      It’s our wedding anniversary today- a quiet one, then we’re off to Church Stretton on Monday (and, pinch me, meeting Tish on Tuesday! 🙂 )

      1. Sounds like they’ll keep him busy. It isn’t much fun this getting old lark is it? Im fine the puppies are just like kids, hard work but rewarding. I’m up even earlier than usual so knackered, and no respite because we’re short staffed at work again! Most days I haven’t even turned my computer on. Roll on Florence☺ where will you see Tish? That will be lovely, give her a G hug. Happy Anniversary to you both and enjoy Church Stretton, wherever it is! 💕

      2. I just said on your 6WS that you wouldn’t want to leave them for Florence 🙂 🙂 What date next month do you go? Church Stretton is very close to Much Wenlock, where Tish lives, and they’re coming to take us out to supper. Woo hoo! It’ll give Mick some entertaining company too. 🙂

    1. Thanks, sweetheart. 🙂 I tried to deliver these flowers to the hospital on Tuesday, but Vron was too ill. Now they’re sitting on my hearth as a reminder. Not that I need one, but they are beautiful.

  4. I’m so sorry, Jo! I’m glad you had the privilege of knowing Vron and being a caring companion. The pretty flowers do this sad post justice. My thoughts are with you and Vron’s family. Life is precious, but not always kind. Family is precious and often kind.

    1. They are the loveliest and most supportive of families, Liesbet, and life has dealt them unkind blows and great good fortune. Their faith always carries them through. I wish I could feel the same. Thank you for your kind thoughts. 🙂

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