Pear-shaped is exactly how it feels, some days. A sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. A sadness that won’t be pushed away. No matter how many times I might repeat ‘get a grip!’ Get a grip! It’s 18 months since we sold our UK home and renounced life in England, in pursuit of ‘the dream‘. And yes, we found it. A world of sunlight and smiling faces. But often now, I wonder, at what cost?
Of course, we discussed the ‘what ifs’ before we made the move. What if we’re seriously ill over there, or worse, the youngsters are? Easily dismissed! Portugal has a health care system. Flights are cheap and easy. Stop right there. You can see the flaw in the argument now, can’t you? Why didn’t we? Hindsight, such a wonderful thing. It does no good to say, as both children have, ‘but you’re safer there’. It may well be true. There is far less density of population here, and steps were taken in good time to help prevent the spread of infection. But I didn’t come here for safety. Far from it! And I definitely didn’t come here to isolate myself from my family. The dream included happy times shared with them, in this lovely place. Was I greedy? Wanting too much? You can’t have it all, never was truer.
The clock ticks on and there is no real comfort in sight. Flights can be, have been, booked, but there is no certainty that they will operate. And what of the quarantine measures that may be applied? Which employer is going to say ‘go, have a good time, and take an extra 2 weeks when you come back to self isolate’? If there is still a job available.
The pragmatic view. All things must pass? But in the meantime I feel like I have betrayed my children. Deliberately distanced myself when help, both physical and emotional, might be needed. Hoodwinked, both them and me. Overreacting? Maybe so, but that expression ‘a heavy heart’- I know just how it feels. Gradually things are starting to normalise here, and I can’t deny spontaneous joy at walking on beaches again, and meeting with friends. But the future feels precarious, in a way it never did, ‘before’.